In Wounded by Words, the authors explore how emotional abusers isolate, disorient, and indoctrinate their victims and how their unkind words leave lasting scars. Sharing personal stories of people from the Bible and from contemporary life who have suffered verbal abuse, the authors offer tested, scriptural advice for breaking the cycle. Readers will learn how to recognize the signs of verbal or emotional abuse, change abusive patterns, and rediscover hope.
Wounded by Words: Healing the Invisible Scars of Emotional Abuse offers hope and healing through Christ from these unseen hurts. Women who have grown up with the harsh reality of verbal abuse understand the pain and suffering it causes. The results of this kind of mistreatment may not cause bruises and other visible injuries, but nevertheless, the scars are there. These scars remain in the heart and mind, causing fear, powerlessness, and dependency.
Growing up in an alcoholic home, Karen Kosman learned the pain of demeaning, caustic words. Susan Osborn also was verbally abused by her mother. Later both women married men who continued the cycle of emotional abuse. Once again angry, thoughtless words daily eroded their self-esteem. Gradually through Scripture, counseling, and God’s love, healing began. Today, both women are remarried to supportive, Christian husbands, and the cycle of abuse has been broken. Susan is a CLASS speaker and has published 28 books. Karen is an inspirational speaker for church groups. Jeenie Gordon, also verbally abused, has dealt with numerous patients who have been verbally abused in her 20 years as a marriage and family therapist. She has published five books, one of which was a Gold Medallion finalist.
Wounded by Words is a comforting, supporting resource for all those who are in the healing process from this invisible wound. These stories supply encouragement for those dark nights when it seems nothing provides relief. The reader will find renewed strength and great support from those who have gone before in this journey.
Dave Carder, MA, MFT, Author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from Extramarital Affairs and coauthor of Secrets of Your Family Tree.
I thought I was reading Wounded by Words to use with my grieving clients, but as I read memories got loose that I long ago had sealed up to prevent further harm. And I was reminded that I have wounded loved ones with my words. This book offers the reader generous hope that one can not just “defang” the wounding words, but can build some type of relationship with the wounder. Someone you know—perhaps you—needs this book today!
Harold Ivan Smith, DMin, FT, teaching faculty, American Academy of Bereavement
[by the way, FT means Fellow in Thanatology]
What happens when you put together the ultimate survivor with a master storyteller and premier family therapist? You get the power house trio of authors who bring to us Wounded by Words. Kosman, Osborn, and Gordon are true sages of our time. Their masterful messages speak to the heart of everyone – who hasn’t been wounded by words? If you are ready to be healed by words, then this is a must read. I love the stories, and I love the depth of insights. Congratulations on a terrific work!
Dr. Kevin Downing – Co-Founder, Turning Point Counseling and the Turning Point Ministry Group